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I Need a New Crush

Ever since the ill-reviewed, but cultishly popular Sin City, I've had a bit of a crush on Brittany Murphy. You know the one I mean...not the ridiculously bloated lipped, emaciated waif that she had become; but the cute, ditzy, carefree, accidentally-sexy-without-flaunting-it Brittany. Ever since she met that low life douchey husband of hers, her once promising career vanished like peppermint bark on a Christmas Day.

She may have been a druggie. Who knows. But, I'd say Douchey McDouchebag had some hand in her death. At the very least, he was a facilitator...a passive bystander to her demise. Two little tidbits that don't necessary implicate his guilt, but sure make him look like a pretty good suspect: 1. He asked that the Coroner's Office NOT perform an autopsy. Huh? Your 32 year old wife just died in your shower, and you callously dismiss an autopsy? 2. He had, until recently, been in debt to the tune of a cool 1/2 mil. Coincidentally (or not....*cough*) he paid it off shortly after he became married to Brittany.

You can read about this stuff on the 'net. That, of course, doesn't make it true (Really? I thought if it was on the internet it HAD to be true!  ;-) ) but usually...where there's smoke, there's fire.

Anyway, now that Brittany is gone, Crush needs a new celeb crush. I'm thinking...
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Julie Benz, from Dexter.

She's no Megan Fox, but Megan knows she is sexy, and works it. That's not my type. (I'd still throw a bone her way, if she somehow was flaunting her scorching sexuality my way...I think I need to go revise my Christmas list.) 

*DEXTER SPOILER ALERT* READ NO FURTHER IF YOU HAVEN'T SEEN THE SEASON FINALE

Leave it to me to have a crush on one actress who dies in real life, and then try to replace her with one that was just killed off in her small screen role as Dexter's wife...

The Rumor Mill Stops Here

 

It's True. Tiger and I have had an affair for 18 months.

 

I've got the texts to prove it and 2 of my friends say its true. Anyone want my story so I can be famous for about 12 seconds?

Lots of golf terms, as euphemisms for Tiger's sexual antics have come to mind this week. Pardon me for chuckling, but he played his round and now he's got to score it. You can make up your own jokes, even if you don't know golf....

ball in the rough

just playing through

using a driver

plugged lie

penalty stroke

teeing off

its in the hole

putt for dough

handicapped score

sweet spot

ground under repair

short game

threesomes and foursomes

ladie's tee

open stance

cart path only

out of bounds

ball washer

up and down

ten finger grip

winter rules

 

Any others you can think of?

Ever so slightly inspired (a Thanksgiving post)

I've been lurking around my intimate hood for two days now. That's the first time in a very long time, that I've done that. I'm catching up on as many posts as I can, but its tough when you only pop in once or twice a month.

While my absence has gone largely unnoticed, life has gone on for all of you. You continue to amaze me with your strength, talent, resilliency, persistence, wit and candor. There have been some amazingly powerful posts in my hood over the last week or so....stories of life, living, death, desire and victory. It has reminded me of the "old Vox", when I couldn't wait to see my hoodies' updates from one day to the next. You had enriched my life, and I felt compelled to oblige you all with posts of my own--some humorous (at least I thought so...), some as serious as a heart attack. But, perhaps oblige isn't the right word. I was driven from within; inspired by all of you, to enlighten, entertain, create and inspire in return.

I don't know how effective I ever was at returning the favor, but I tried. And, tonight, I feel some reconnection here. I had absolutely nothing to do with it, though. It was all of you.

These past couple of days, I've felt the stark pain of a parent's death, relived a decade of incredible transformation, overcame obstacles that one should ever have to confront and shared blessings too copious to recount. And, none of any of this, happened in my life....they happened in yours, and I thank you all for sharing them with me. This week, as we celebrate the Thanksgiving holiday here in the US, I wish I had the words to properly thank each of you.

It is my sincere hope that all of you, find something, anything--even something as simple as a nomadic band of loosely connected "e-neighbors", to be grateful for this week. I certainly am.

To those outside of my (our) Voxhood, this is nothing but a lifeless cluster of electrons---barely able to be construed as 'words on a page'. To those within, this is life. This is pain. This is love. This is home.

I am thankful to be back home this Thanksgiving. Thank you for granting me the privelege of being a witness to your wonderful, amazing lives.

Love you guys...

Crush

 

 

Sometimes...

...you have to cut yourself to remember you're alive.

Life is what you make it, and make of it. Yeah. I'll die someday. I'm working towards accepting my mortality. But, for today...

There's nothing like a moshpit in front of Metallica and 19,000 head-banging lunatics to remind me how fragile and beautiful life is. Teenagers and fortysomethings. Raw vitality and awkward resistance. Generations apart, but united and tangible energies. Living. Alive. And nothing else matters.....

Grinding Phoenix

Its been well over a month since my last post. My time on Vox has slowed to a fraction of what it was a couple of years ago. There's many reasons. Some of it is Vox's fault. I don't need to go into detail as its been well documented both here and in my hood. Some of it is that my hoodies have disappeared, or simply abandoned me as a neighbor. I'm easy to miss if I'm only updating my Vox page once or twice a month. I understand that, and no hard feelings if you're one of those that used to drop in. That leads me to the third and most prevalent reason for my minimal Vox time: Me.

Sure, the nanobots in my corporate IT department finally got wise and blocked Vox from my desktop. Perhaps they noticed that I spent as much as an hour a day here. What they haven't noticed, I'm certain, is that my productivity has likely dropped significantly by removing Vox as my daily distraction from the grind.

Ah yes...the grind. The grind has all but killed my spirit these last couple of years. The grind is primarily responsible for my withdrawal...Microcosmically from Vox; and macrocosmically from life.

I am not a defeatist, but I feel defeated. Life has finally got the better of me.

Have you ever read the articles that discuss the top stressors in a human's life? About 10 years ago, I slogged through 8 of the top 10 life stresses simultaneously. (The list was compiled from a survey of doctors and published in some some health/fitness magazine. They update it every year.) I'm not really excited about looking for the list right now, but you can guess most of them....  Divorce, loss of a job/unemployment, general emotional or physical trauma, loss of an immediate family member, financial troubles, addictions, health problems, moving, raising a young child, etc etc etc  Anyway, I simultaneously battled 8 of the top 10 and remember being emboldened by the fact that I was beating it. Life tried to kick my ass and I fought back. As I emerged beyond these stresses one by one  and over the course of a couple of years, my confidence never wavered. In fact, it made me stronger and more confident than I already was, in the knowledge that I could conquer the most stressful things that life can throw at you.  I did it without the support of a significant other. I did it without the crutch of prescription drugs. I did it alone. I did it.

Today, when perhaps only 2 or 3 of the top 10 stressors plague me, I am ready to throw my hands up and wave the white flag. What happened? Where did the confident, proud, breast-beating man go? I can make little sense of my emotions these days. I'm neither happy nor unhappy. I am thankful for what I have, but discontent in it. I yearn for a better life, or perhaps, just the life I used to live. What's missing? Can I regain my confidence and reemerge happy and content in my own skin? Or, is it necessary to shed my old skin, and rise as a Phoenix with new feathers just to cope? Or, has the grind finally caught up to me, exhausting my finite God-given pool of ability and capability forevermore?

The answer is within. That much I know. But today, as I stare into the abyss, it is empty. The very skin that has served me well in all my years before this, is weathered and scaly. My armor is rusted and the elements have seemingly won. The fire that I need to burn within, instead burns all around me, scorching my now-naked skin. The Phoenix is late in coming to this metaphor of life....

The List

As some of you may or may not remember, I penned a list of 29 'Life's To Do's' at age 16. It's been the cause of much angst recently, as I am realizing I will never be able to cross 3 of those items off. EVER. Life has simply passed those opportunities by. While I hold 'the list' to the highest level of confidentiality, I'll share one example: Item #20 was to play at least one game of NHL professional hockey. And, while I rose to the semi-pro level briefly, playing for a regional team for a couple of years, I won't be needing Scott Boras or Jerry Maguire anytime soon. The game is simply too competitive for an old fart like me.

But, 'the List'-induced melancholia of recent days was tempered with a dose of exaltation today. I ran 10.5 miles today in my training for the half marathon in September. Item # 10 on the list? 'Run 10 miles without stopping, ' in verbiage that gives away my mid-teen authorship. ;-)   Anyway, even during the days of triple sessions summer workouts in high school, Navy flight training, and semi pro hockey, the most I ever ran at one time was 6 miles. Today, I eclipsed that mark--some 20 years later at age 40 something, and crossed the 17th item off the list of 29.

So, if 3 items just aren't achievable at this point, that leaves 9 more to-do's before I become one of the lost souls in my own Thriller video. When that time comes, I hope my dance will be one of celebration and victory, having kicked the ass of this crazy and sole go-around we all get.

Carpe Diem, my friends!

 

It can't get here soon enough...

...my annual male bonding week, of course.

Every year, my old squadron buddies and I meet up in Vegas and plunder the city for everything its famous for. Well, maybe not everything, but you'll have to determine which of Sin City's sins Crush will partake of.

My buds and I, about 4 to 6 strong annually, have been meeting in Vegas since the Tailhook days. If you're too young to remember Tailhook and the horrible escapades, press and publicity for the military, here's a link:

Now, I obviously don't condone sexual harrassment or any other form of abuse, but let me tell you: Until 1991, when the wheels came off the funbus, Tailhook was a blast. In the four years that I attended (by the way, I missed 1991 because I was deployed overseas), I never once saw any incident like what transpired in 1991. Drunken revelry? Sure. Nudity? Yep. Men and women engaging in consentual adult activities? Absolutely. Rape and/or harassment? Never.

Tailhook was a celebration of youth for a bunch of young men and women who put their lives on the line in the name of freedom. Men and women who could land a screaming, rocket-fueled beast, strapped to their asses on a postage stamp in a raging sea. It was a time to forget the responsibilities of being a military officer, and a time to forget protocol. We try to recapture the bacchinalia and carpe-diem of our 20's each year when we return....

Really though, all it is is a pathetic attempt to try to retain a modicum of our youth. Me and the boys are all 40 somethings now... failed marriages, custody fights, battle scars of life in our wakes now. No tales of victory from the front lines. Just embellished stories of yesterday, mixed with a bit of hope for tomorrow.

Though we're all in decent shape for our ages (competetive eff that I am, I am the hardest bod of the lot ;-) ), there's a pot belly and a bald head or two in the bunch. We've lost a step or three since the 90's. Now? We are the lecherous and gross old guys among the 20 somethings that flock to Vegas. But, we don't let it get to us one bit. We know we're still the shit. And, we'll outclass the poser males of gen-Y and have them buying us drinks while we're showing them up.

My fly boy buds would give the shirt off their backs for me and for our country. They love their kids and their families. They are generous, honest guys and I wouldn't be surprised if we're still meeting up in Vegas in our 60's and beyond. How pathetic cool is that?

Back in the saddle again...just a handful of days, but it can't get here soon enough. Sin City may never be the same...

Soooo....here I am....

...my first opportunity to pull up Vox in well over a week. I feel like I should post something, but I just spent the last hour catching up on all the posts in my hood and now I'm late for my run. BTW, I started training for Kilimanjaro last month. I'm already up to 6.5 miles with a half marathon in my sights for September. Other than that, not much new here. Working like a dog and working for the man still aint no fun.

Miss you all. I'll check in when I can.

It's over...

...for my beloved Bruins, and for my Vox life. This has not been a good day for me.

I haven't posted here nearly as much as I used to. But, Vox has remained a welcome, almost-daily distraction to my workday. Its become routine, almost like a cigarrette, where I would pull up my Vox 3-4 times a day when I needed a break from the intensity, emotion and frustration of the day.

Within my small hood, and beyond, I've found such talent and amazing insight here on Vox. Art, photography, music, poetry--its all here---incredible, award worthy stuff, at my fingertips. Its helped me retain my sanity, which was often called into question over these past months.

But, now, alas...its all over. Having escaped the firewalls, security and proxy settings of Big Brother since I first became a member in Dec 2006, my dark little secret has been discovered and all access blocked. Vox just won't feel the same as an occasional weekend Vox warrior or late night troll.

Vox never needed me. My talents lie outside of the realm of anything Voxable. But, I've needed Vox.

Perhaps the timing is right, for this to have happened now. I've been extremely frustrated, having lost more than a handful of posts after toiling hours on a story or life snippet. And then there's the PMs that have been smashed into a bazillion electrons and scattered throughout cyberspace, but never reaching its intended recipient. And now, with Vox's sister, Twitter, the minutia of life is more popular than ever. I just can't relate to that. Much like a teenager to a parent, perhaps I've outgrown Vox. I feel I still need it as a part of my life, but I really don't. Or, do I?

The bonds I've made here are stronger than my diminished presence. You know who you are. I'll still be around. You'll just have to do without my witty banter and clever commentary while I figure out just how infrequent my visits here will ultimately become.

Have a good weekend all. See you around the hood...I'll just be that creepy old guy down the block, that you only see every week or two...

 

Blood is the Rose of Mysterious Union...

Almost forty years after release of Morrison Hotel, and 38 years after he recorded his final note, Jim Morrison still kicks ass. Period. Today's music is, by and large, shit by comparison.

It had been a while since I had a music post, so...enjoy this little 3 minute psychedelic trip back to the 70s.

 

JM

 

Peace Frog

The Doors

Lizard King

*Thanks to my music guru, Heather, for reminding me how great this music still is!